Forever 29. Nerdy hippie. Single mama. Pagan nature lover and an intersectional feminist. Queer. Ravenclaw. Open minded, but very opinionated. I am honest to a fault. Domestic abuse survivor; recovering addict and spoonie. Vape enthusiast, tobacco free for almost 3 years. Aspiring foodie - teaching myself to cook for a little over 5 years. I love to paint and read. I'm always sarcastic. I'm creative and quirky; an introverted (INFP-T) daydreamer. I'm a completely disorganized and forgetful planner and a spontaneous adventurer. » Learn more?
I have never been the type of person who enjoys the spotlight or large groups of people. I thrive on my alone time. I need time to myself to think and feel and relax and recharge. Being around people drains my energy. I have severe anxiety and have a very difficult time expressing myself without looking and sounding like a bucket of nerves. I often feel like everything out of my mouth sounds idiotic, so I’d rather not say anything at all. I’d much prefer to sit at home and read a book than go out to a bar and have drinks with friends. I’d much rather cuddle up on the couch and watch a movie than go to a theater and watch it with a million strangers. Long story short, I’m an introvert, and that’s okay.
Many people believe that introversion is about being antisocial, and that’s really a misperception. Because actually, it’s just that introverts are differently social. So they would prefer to have a glass of wine with a close friend as opposed to going to a loud party full of strangers.
– Susan Cain, author of Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking
I found this post about a month ago, and it was like a breath of fresh air. It’s nice to know that I’m not alone in feeling the way that I do. I decided to write my own list about what being an introvert means to me, and post it here, in an effort to debunk the misconceptions of my introversion.
- Just because I’m an introvert doesn’t mean… that I’m stuck up or bitchy. I’m socially awkward and always anxious – I’m not trying to be rude, I just don’t know how to handle myself in groups of people, so I tend to hide off in a spare room by myself.
- Just because I’m an introvert doesn’t mean…that I’m uneducated. On the contrary, I’m quite intelligent. I just don’t feel the need to assert my intelligence or spout off at the mouth with every thought that crosses my mind.
- Just because I’m an introvert doesn’t mean…that I’m a mute. I have actually been mistaken for a mute on several occasions, which always makes me laugh. I am definitely shy at first, but once I get to know someone, I’m actually quite outspoken. I don’t just talk to hear myself talk, though…
- Just because I’m an introvert doesn’t mean…that I don’t have opinions. This is the biggest misconception! I’m actually quite opinionated, but my opinions aren’t usually “the norm” so I tend to keep them to myself unless you’re a close friend.
- Just because I’m an introvert doesn’t mean…that I don’t have friends. I don’t have many friends, but that’s because I have a really hard time dealing with stupidity and I have deep set trust issues from a life of being fucked over. The friends I do have mean the world to me; they’re some of the best people I’ve ever known.
- Just because I’m an introvert doesn’t mean…that I’m no fun. I’m not the type of person who finds clubbing and bar hopping fun. Again, I’m socially awkward. Groups of people just aren’t my thing. I do, however, like to have fun – in my own way. I’ve got quite a macabre sense of humor, but I love to make people laugh if they can get on my level. 🙂